Fear of intimacy

When I was younger, I assumed that when I found the ideal person for me and was in my ideal relationship, it was going to be easy, and I was going to feel comfortable and safe all the time. I have come to learn, through countless emotional outbursts, anxious moments, doubt-filled thoughts, hard conversations, and extreme emotional discomfort, that my belief of the ideal relationship was pretty misguided. When I met my boyfriend, I knew he was what I had been searching for.

He was open, loving, honest, kind, caring, and funny, and his spirit just sparkled through his eyes. However, I was nervous.

At its simplest, a person with abandonment issues has a perpetual fear of being abandoned by those close to him. Feelings of insecurity, low-esteem and.

Do you feel panicked when you reveal too much about yourself, fearing you might drive that person away? Do you fantasize about a relationship escape plan? Do you get anxious when your partner seems aloof? Are you a serial dater? Do you need continual reassurance from your spouse? Do you micromanage your partner, always needing to know where and what he or she is doing?

Are you a suspicious person? Do you have commitment problems? Do your fears of rejection keep you from entering new relationships?